girls, hear me out!

Today, I had lunch with a friend from work, she is much younger than me, 7 years younger.

I asked her to lunch since I sensed sadness and troubles in her status in Facebook and YM. After lunch, we sat on this coffee shop, and rambled here and there. Then, the nosy and meddler me, asked her,’what’s up with you?’

Though not crying, I can see she’s holding back tears, and said,’it’s my boyfriend!’

Of course.

‘What’s with him?’ 

‘I couldn’t stop thinking why he likes to yell at me. Even to little things.’

…

‘When he had to drive me home, he even yelled at me if there were bad traffics.’

…

‘He never wanted to take me home, if he does, he has to whine all the way down to my house.’

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‘Last night, he yelled at me over something stupid.’

Sigh.

I can understand if she puts up with that in a marriage, but they’re only seeing each other.

She has been putting up with that for 2 YEARS. Can you believe it?

Why would a girl stay for those yellings? If my husband did during the time we went out, I would never marry him.

So girls, hear me out.

It is not right for a man to yell at you. Even if you do stupid things. A nice man would keep his mouth shut for your stupidity, if it annoys him, he would tell you nicely.

 

Dating is courting time. It’s the time when men have to give more than they receive, because in marriage, women have to sacrifice more. Marriage is for life, so Men have to bear with this situation at least until when you exchange vows. If he doesn’t want to please you during this time, then might as well leave him. He’s not worth it.

 

Being single is not scary. It’s actually fun. You have your own money. The only person you need to think of is yourself. It is better to be single, then to be in a bad relationship. Even if I didn’t meet my husband, I would still be happy single. I got married when I was 29, and what bugged me was not the fact that I was single, but the question of WHEN. Other than that, it was a fabulous time for me.

Girls, seriously, get out from bad relationship, admit to yourself that the relationship will not do you any good and will only make you suffer.

Remember, MARRIAGE is never a solution for this kind of relationship.

Solution would be finding yourself a nice man who will sweep you off your feet and will go miles to make you happy.

 

“..about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back.

But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous.” – Carrie Bradshaw, Sex & The City