My daughter's drawing of me and her
Selamat Hari Ibu Ma.. December 29, 2009
Pia’s Letter for me for mother’s day!
English Translation:Mama
You take care of me
Mama, you are my angel
Mama, you are my dream
Mama, I am very thankful of you
I hope Allah will always protect you.
Happy Mother’s Day December 22, 2009
“The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” Theodore Hesburgh. Got this from a friend’s twit, like to share it with you.
So True. A road to a happy home is a happy mom. So Dads, make the moms happy and not only you have a happy home, you will also have happy kids. Not to mention, your chance of getting lucky every night is also bigger, since nothing turns on the ladies more than nice men.
However Ladies, it’s not Dad’s responsibilities to make us happy. We have to be able to make ourselves happy, be content with ourselves, rest assured everyone will be happy including the probably-not-so-happy-dads.
Ladies, Happy Mother’s Day. Enjoy every day of your life!
taman bunga December 18, 2009
Menikah itu bukan masuk taman bunga
Kata-kata itu courtesy mama yang (hampir) selalu mengeluarkan kalimat itu kalau mendengar ada artis cerai, atau bahkan kalau aku lagi menangis tersedu-sedu karena ada aja yang Abang lakukan yang tidak sesuai dengan nilai-ku.
Kenapa nilai dalam italic letters? Karena nilai yang aku maksud adalah nilai KU, yang benar buat ku, yang belum tentu benar buat setiap orang. Kalau tanpa italic rasanya aku merasa bahwa itulah yang paling benar.
Anyway, dengan perceraian yang teramat sangat banyak dilayar kaca atau bahkan dikehidupan yang dekat denganku saat ini, membuatku teramat sangat bersyukur bahwa akhirnya aku dan abang berada di tahap kita saat ini.
Tahap paliiiiing nyaman: aku mengerti bagaimana menanggapi hembusan nafas kesalnya tanpa harus ikut merasa kesal juga, atau berpikir ‘ini orang kenapa sih?’. Atau dia mengerti bagaimana melakukan hal-hal kecil yang bisa membuatku senang banget, seperti mandi sepulang kerja.
Mandi sepulang kerja? Duilah reseh amat jadi istri, cuma gara-gara suami gak mandi sepulang kerja jadi bete? oh iya. Kebiasaan kecil masing-masing yang kita lakukan sejak kecil ternyata bisa jadi amat sangat mengganggu pasangan kita loh, dan hal ini yang kemudian diartikan sebagai ‘berbeda prinsip’ dan kemudian cerai. Nanti aku balik lagi ke berbeda prinsip ini yah.
Untuk sampai ke tahap paling nyaman ini, adjustment yang kita lakukan amat sangat banyak, terlebih lagi kita berasal dari dunia yang amat sangat berbeda.
Di awal pernikahan ada sih saatnya aku ingin berhenti, bahkan sampai terlontar dari mulut. Walaupun menyesal, kejadian itu menjadi bagian dari perjalanan kita berdua. Saat itu, kita gak berkomunikasi sekitar 1 hari (untuk kita terbilang lama, karena kita bisa telpon2an berkali-kali dalam sehari), dalam diam itu sebenarnya aku dihadapkan pada dua pilihan: tetap pada perpisahan (karena toh itu ideku dan abang saat itu sudah setuju) atau menyesali dan kembali bersama lagi.
Akhirnya aku memutuskan untuk berbicara kepada Allah SWT, dalam percakapan melalui shalat itu, aku kok seolah-olah mendengar suara ditelingaku. Suara itu bertanya: sebenarnya apa sih tujuan menikah? Untuk kebahagiaan dunia semata-mata? Benar juga sih, kan kemarin pas ijab kabul itu kita berjanji sama Allah SWT, bukan cuma berjanji sama abang. Masa sih, mau ingkar terhadap janji yang kita buat di hadapan Allah SWT.
Menikah itu ibadah. As simple as that.
Sekarang balik ke prinsip tadi, bagiku, prinsip adalah agamaku. Selama abang memiliki rasa takut yang sama kepada Allah SWT, maka kita masih memiliki prinsip yang sama. Buatku itu aja deal breaker-nya.
Yang lainnya? Proses.
Yang lainnya? Itu lah ujian pernikahan. Itu lah yang harus kita sama-sama jalani dan temukan titik kompromi-nya sehingga kita sama-sama nyaman, sama-sama senang, dan sama-sama bahagianya.
Well, hari ini tepat 4 tahun, aku dan abangku sudah berkali-kali mencoba menemukan titik kompromi itu, dan alhamdulillah-nya, sudah berkali-kali pula kami menemukan titik kompromi agar kami bisa tertawa sama-sama di akhir hari. Perjuangan kami masih panjang, tapi selama kita punya rasa takut itu, insya Allah kita aman.
Buatku, walaupun lagi susah, tetap aja tempatku ini taman bunga, tapi mungkin durinya lagi banyak aja.
Happy Anniversary Abang. May we last forever and will love more each day. Amen.
Maghrib Sky December 17, 2009
I feel sad when the sky looks like this and I am still not home.
It’ll bring little tears to my eyes, unless if I am with my family.
Curious Syaamil December 16, 2009
- my boy in his curious face, a second after this the smile showed
Though it seems he’s frowning, this is actually his curious face. When he put on this face, people will say, Kikie #2, because he looks like me with this face on.
kumat December 16, 2009
ugh sebel..
dari tadi malem, males gue kumat lagi.
ngikutin kata hati yang mostly diatur ama setan.
sebel.
no more.
hopefully today will be better.
girls, hear me out! December 15, 2009
Today, I had lunch with a friend from work, she is much younger than me, 7 years younger.
I asked her to lunch since I sensed sadness and troubles in her status in Facebook and YM. After lunch, we sat on this coffee shop, and rambled here and there. Then, the nosy and meddler me, asked her,’what’s up with you?’
Though not crying, I can see she’s holding back tears, and said,’it’s my boyfriend!’
Of course.
‘What’s with him?’
‘I couldn’t stop thinking why he likes to yell at me. Even to little things.’
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‘When he had to drive me home, he even yelled at me if there were bad traffics.’
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‘He never wanted to take me home, if he does, he has to whine all the way down to my house.’
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‘Last night, he yelled at me over something stupid.’
Sigh.
I can understand if she puts up with that in a marriage, but they’re only seeing each other.
She has been putting up with that for 2 YEARS. Can you believe it?
Why would a girl stay for those yellings? If my husband did during the time we went out, I would never marry him.
So girls, hear me out.
It is not right for a man to yell at you. Even if you do stupid things. A nice man would keep his mouth shut for your stupidity, if it annoys him, he would tell you nicely.
Dating is courting time. It’s the time when men have to give more than they receive, because in marriage, women have to sacrifice more. Marriage is for life, so Men have to bear with this situation at least until when you exchange vows. If he doesn’t want to please you during this time, then might as well leave him. He’s not worth it.
Being single is not scary. It’s actually fun. You have your own money. The only person you need to think of is yourself. It is better to be single, then to be in a bad relationship. Even if I didn’t meet my husband, I would still be happy single. I got married when I was 29, and what bugged me was not the fact that I was single, but the question of WHEN. Other than that, it was a fabulous time for me.
Girls, seriously, get out from bad relationship, admit to yourself that the relationship will not do you any good and will only make you suffer.
Remember, MARRIAGE is never a solution for this kind of relationship.
Solution would be finding yourself a nice man who will sweep you off your feet and will go miles to make you happy.
“..about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back.
But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous.” – Carrie Bradshaw, Sex & The City
professional blogger December 14, 2009
I have been blogging since 2004, but have been too lazy to blog lately (years to be exact!).
Several weeks a go, I came across some good blogs by my friends, or completely strangers. You know that they actually made money out of it? They are called professional bloggers.
So, this blog is my first journey in becoming one. Even if I don’t turn out to be one, at least I get to pour my heart’s content here.
Hopefully, I am strict enough to update this blog at least once a week.
Enjoy your reading peeps!
